People today have become completely absorbed on focusing and analyzing the lives of others.
They become obsessed with being updated on everyone else’s lives without giving a second thought to the problems in their own lives.
They wait to prey on certain individuals and ridicule them to the lowest point of their self esteem instead of simply being happy.
What is this obsession that we have that allows us to revolve around and give so much importance to the lives of others?
Why can’t we invest this same energy by simply reflecting on ourselves, making an effort towards our own lives, being grateful for what we possess and what we have achieved. Instead, we foolishly use up this energy to harbour negative feelings towards an individual without even knowing them.
Judging is simply our attempt to create a hierarchy of better than and less than, superior to and inferior to, and to define worth to everyone and everything that we come across. We have the innate urge to be right, to be better, to be superior—always. Our binary view of the world around us necessitates us to be either right or wrong, and so we tend to judge.
Today, we see a couple getting married and criticise the bride and groom… What did he see in her, she’s not as fair as him, she’s from a poor background or we look at him and wonder what in the world did she see in him, perhaps it was because of money, we tell ourselves.
We attend a function and take the time to scrutinize every woman walking pass. If she doesn’t have designer wear, she’s not worthy to be amongst the rich. We would gossip all night about who wore the most outrageous outfit.This list of unsolicited judgments never ends.
We get so embedded into judging others that we forget our own flaws, our sins, our hearts that are hardening as each day passes.
We forget to reform ourselves!
Why do we constantly need to find faults at other’s? How is that benefiting us? Why are we allowing this to boost our egos?
If someone is happy with their significant other no matter what the race, skin colour, appearance, height or weight is, why should we have an issue?
It is the two of them who will spend the rest of their lives together, not us..
Why must we judge someone by the clothing they wear. If that’s what they can afford, if thats their choice of style, let them be. Live and let live! Why are we getting affected by it, Let them be!They’re embracing their perfect imperfections and so should you.
We need to stop finding faults in others, fabricating stories, or finding numerous ways to belittle them. Reflect on yourself! better yourself! Let’s normalize the spreading of goodwill and stop spreading toxicity.
You will remain miserable if you continue focusing on the lives of others and not yourself.
The world around us is our mirror, and judging someone does not define who they are—it defines who we are. More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves. Read that again. Let it sink in.
Let’s try to be more appreciative and compassionate of the world around us for what it is, rather than trying to fit it into our optics. Rather spend your energy in being kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know absolutely nothing about.
And most importantly understand that our time is a great wealth. We cannot go back and undo things
The seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, years, and the moments of the life of this world is like a block of ice that is melting relentlessly in the sun.
Use it wisely not carelessly.
