Divorced or Widowed

If you’ve been divorced or widowed and afraid to marry again  because you might not find someone suitable, always comparing everyone to the one you loved, and probably under the impression that all men/woman are the same and for that reason you refuse to commit to another marriage.

Every experience is different.

Yes, you may have had a rough start at the beginning but don’t let it be your conclusion about every man/woman.
There are good people, people who are genuine, passionate, loving, outgoing, humble, sincere, and are everything else you would want in a spouse.
You just have to learn to learn to take that step forward and give it a try inshaAllah (If GOD wills).

For the widow’s…

Losing a loved one is something that you can never forget.
The pain that you had to endure was unimaginable and trying to move on isn’t easy especially if you’re going to compare every individual to the one you lost.

It’s not fair to those people you comparing your mahroom spouse with.
You’re  not giving others a chance to express their love in their own way, or to be open minded about their likes, dislikes, dressing, their appearance, because you’re always comparing every detail to your marhoom spouse.

Each individual has a unique way of doing things, making decisions, showing their love and affection, and its upto you to allow them or shall I say, give them that chance to let you experience something different, extraordinary, something that could lead you to being happy again inshaAllah.

Think about it my respected readers.
There’s no reason to give up on being happy. There’s so much more to life than sitting all day and sobbing over the past, and always being doubtful.

Make intention to give marriage a second chance, never give up and never doubt Allah Ta’ala.

May Allah Ta’ala make it easy for those who have lost their loved ones and grant them the highest stages in Jannah. May Allah make it easy for those who are going through a divorce and grant them sabr, and a suitable partner in the future. Aameen.

Remember this sinful slave in your duas inshaAllah.